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clouddarling:
astrotomy:
astrotomy:
not 2 b controversial but yall who are really out there defining your sexuality over whether or not you can be attracted to nb people, as if we exist alongside or are complacent in the gender binary and patriarchy, as if the society u were raised in somehow lets you recognize social cues that set nonbinary people from men and women (cues that dont exist), as if nonbinary people have a specific style or role or way of looking, r stupid as hell and dont get what being nonbinary is about
all of these terms like “mlnb” “wlnb” “nblnb” and god forbid terms like “skoliosexual” or what the fuck ever are bullshit, treat nonbinary people like theyre part of secret third gender which is utterly besides the point, and is bordering on fetishistic (ESPECIALLY when it comes from cis people) and its above all weird as hell
like how are you only attracted to nb ppl do you just ask everyone you meet if theyre nb or not and arent attracted to them until they say yes like how does that work??????
how are you a lesbian? do you ask everyone you meet if they’re a woman or not and aren’t attracted to them until they say yes? like how does that work?
nonbinary is an incoherent class full of people with diametrically opposed experiences of gender and completely various bodies and expressions. so are womanhood and manhood. being attracted to nonbinary people works like being attracted to men or women: if you think someone is attractive while you’re aware of their gender, people of that gender are attractive to you.
there actually are cues people can use to indicate that they’re nonbinary (especially within LGBT and specifically trans spaces) and people use them and get recognized by them. I employ them to some moderate success in LGBT spaces and hope to employ them to more succes in the wider world after I start my medical transition. being out as nonbinary is real! people can do it!
it’s fine if your nonbinariness is an addition to or modification of your womanhood but I actually am part of a secret third gender and when people post about how it doesn’t make sense to express that when someone is attracted to me they’re attracted to a third category other than men and women it kind of sounds like “what you are is unlovable”, like people can only ever be attracted to the person they wrongly think I am. like I really sincerely do understand where you’re coming from and I know that people say they’re “into nonbinary people” or whatever with absolutely terrible understandings of what nonbinary people are but the basic concept of “I’m attracted to nonbinary people” is kind of like… what else are people supposed to say?
clouddarling:
astrotomy:
astrotomy:
not 2 b controversial but yall who are really out there defining your sexuality over whether or not you can be attracted to nb people, as if we exist alongside or are complacent in the gender binary and patriarchy, as if the society u were raised in somehow lets you recognize social cues that set nonbinary people from men and women (cues that dont exist), as if nonbinary people have a specific style or role or way of looking, r stupid as hell and dont get what being nonbinary is about
all of these terms like “mlnb” “wlnb” “nblnb” and god forbid terms like “skoliosexual” or what the fuck ever are bullshit, treat nonbinary people like theyre part of secret third gender which is utterly besides the point, and is bordering on fetishistic (ESPECIALLY when it comes from cis people) and its above all weird as hell
like how are you only attracted to nb ppl do you just ask everyone you meet if theyre nb or not and arent attracted to them until they say yes like how does that work??????
how are you a lesbian? do you ask everyone you meet if they’re a woman or not and aren’t attracted to them until they say yes? like how does that work?
nonbinary is an incoherent class full of people with diametrically opposed experiences of gender and completely various bodies and expressions. so are womanhood and manhood. being attracted to nonbinary people works like being attracted to men or women: if you think someone is attractive while you’re aware of their gender, people of that gender are attractive to you.
there actually are cues people can use to indicate that they’re nonbinary (especially within LGBT and specifically trans spaces) and people use them and get recognized by them. I employ them to some moderate success in LGBT spaces and hope to employ them to more succes in the wider world after I start my medical transition. being out as nonbinary is real! people can do it!
it’s fine if your nonbinariness is an addition to or modification of your womanhood but I actually am part of a secret third gender and when people post about how it doesn’t make sense to express that when someone is attracted to me they’re attracted to a third category other than men and women it kind of sounds like “what you are is unlovable”, like people can only ever be attracted to the person they wrongly think I am. like I really sincerely do understand where you’re coming from and I know that people say they’re “into nonbinary people” or whatever with absolutely terrible understandings of what nonbinary people are but the basic concept of “I’m attracted to nonbinary people” is kind of like… what else are people supposed to say?
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