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May. 12th, 2018 02:30 am
May. 12th, 2018
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been a busy week. going to really treat myself… to a reread of Sidney Crosby ghost possession fanfiction
been a busy week. going to really treat myself… to a reread of Sidney Crosby ghost possession fanfiction
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yeah, pretty often. I don’t necessarily post anything but I tab around and check out people’s blogs. I read a lot. on my phone. fanfiction, usually. sometimes books from Overdrive. sometimes I compose posts in notes. I try not to use tumblr on data too much though
yeah, pretty often. I don’t necessarily post anything but I tab around and check out people’s blogs. I read a lot. on my phone. fanfiction, usually. sometimes books from Overdrive. sometimes I compose posts in notes. I try not to use tumblr on data too much though
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oh my, depends on type of dating. also on like, my life position. rn I’m so busy I’m kind of socially withdrawn, and it’s hard for me to make time to hang out with anyone. “texting every day or every couple of days and carving out time to see each other IRL when possible” in my current lifestyle. two, TBQH. three people would just be like. I’m a busy guy. it would be stressful. with less on my plate and more ease of transport, though, three maximum for that daily correspondence type of relationship. for relationships demanding less time and attention, though? I feel like I could have a number of like, people I’m romantic with when I’m with them. like I have a lot of friends who I don’t talk to even every week but when we do talk we’re very close. i feel like in an environment with a lot of people who are down for that kind of relationship as a romantic thing, I would be cool with having like… two or three people I’m in a frequent correspondence relationship with and like a half dozen people who I see and talk to with varying (in)frequency.
anyway, as the previous paragraph probably reveals, the main way I categorize relationships is volume of time spent on communication. I don’t really utilize the terms primary or secondary, and I don’t really think of it as like, super hierarchical, but I definitely do think of there as being different potential types of relationship w/r/t closeness, amount of contact, amount of emotional intimacy, etc. this is somewhere that the way I think about, uh, amory partners, and friends, is pretty similar. I would never be like “bat is (one of) my primary friend(s) and ethne is (one of) my secondary friend(s)” but if I think about it at all I will recognize that we talk really frequently vs I mostly talk with ethne when ze and I are hanging out, or about to. simultaneously there’s stuff ethne and I share that you and I don’t (particular interests, hobbies, experiences, and modes of interacting.) and vice versa of course. so yeah. friendships and romantic relationships can be all kinds of ways, and if I were pushed to rank them hierarchically it would be by contact hours, but I’m not inclined to do that ranking, and I don’t think it makes relationships inferior or superior to each other. that’s said, my, ah, romantic ventures so far have been pretty binary between “people whose names I don’t know who I kissed at homestuck meetups” and “long term committed relationships of equally strong emotional intimacy”
anyway, spicy polyamory opinion: negative sentiment against polyamory and polyamorous people, and material consequences levied against them and privileges denied them, is very real. them is us I guess, I mean I am in this group. anyway, it’s not an oppression the way homophobia is and polyamorous people aren’t inherently members of the community, but like. if people devalue your relationships, think you’re doing something wrong, consider you wrongheaded in what relationships you think can be real, and generally make it hard for you to like… express basic stuff about the people in your life the way a monogamous person would. it may not be institutionalized polyamphobia but it is a real phenomenon for sure.
oh my, depends on type of dating. also on like, my life position. rn I’m so busy I’m kind of socially withdrawn, and it’s hard for me to make time to hang out with anyone. “texting every day or every couple of days and carving out time to see each other IRL when possible” in my current lifestyle. two, TBQH. three people would just be like. I’m a busy guy. it would be stressful. with less on my plate and more ease of transport, though, three maximum for that daily correspondence type of relationship. for relationships demanding less time and attention, though? I feel like I could have a number of like, people I’m romantic with when I’m with them. like I have a lot of friends who I don’t talk to even every week but when we do talk we’re very close. i feel like in an environment with a lot of people who are down for that kind of relationship as a romantic thing, I would be cool with having like… two or three people I’m in a frequent correspondence relationship with and like a half dozen people who I see and talk to with varying (in)frequency.
anyway, as the previous paragraph probably reveals, the main way I categorize relationships is volume of time spent on communication. I don’t really utilize the terms primary or secondary, and I don’t really think of it as like, super hierarchical, but I definitely do think of there as being different potential types of relationship w/r/t closeness, amount of contact, amount of emotional intimacy, etc. this is somewhere that the way I think about, uh, amory partners, and friends, is pretty similar. I would never be like “bat is (one of) my primary friend(s) and ethne is (one of) my secondary friend(s)” but if I think about it at all I will recognize that we talk really frequently vs I mostly talk with ethne when ze and I are hanging out, or about to. simultaneously there’s stuff ethne and I share that you and I don’t (particular interests, hobbies, experiences, and modes of interacting.) and vice versa of course. so yeah. friendships and romantic relationships can be all kinds of ways, and if I were pushed to rank them hierarchically it would be by contact hours, but I’m not inclined to do that ranking, and I don’t think it makes relationships inferior or superior to each other. that’s said, my, ah, romantic ventures so far have been pretty binary between “people whose names I don’t know who I kissed at homestuck meetups” and “long term committed relationships of equally strong emotional intimacy”
anyway, spicy polyamory opinion: negative sentiment against polyamory and polyamorous people, and material consequences levied against them and privileges denied them, is very real. them is us I guess, I mean I am in this group. anyway, it’s not an oppression the way homophobia is and polyamorous people aren’t inherently members of the community, but like. if people devalue your relationships, think you’re doing something wrong, consider you wrongheaded in what relationships you think can be real, and generally make it hard for you to like… express basic stuff about the people in your life the way a monogamous person would. it may not be institutionalized polyamphobia but it is a real phenomenon for sure.
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1) trans people facing horrible, graphic violence from transphobic bigots to show how life is so hard for the poor things
2) trans people are just like normal men and women :0) what they want is just to become and be seen as normal men and women
this one isn’t really bad bc it’s fine to want wish fulfillment fanfic but stories about trans boys getting their first binders and supportive cis boyfriends is like. it’s valid that you want this and it’s valid that this is how you’re expressing this and your fanfic doesn’t have to be compelling literature. it isn’t, but that really is completely fine.
dishonorable mention for the non-trans fic tropes of gp and bp. tfw you want to write pseudo trans bodies but nothing in any way approaching trans people huh. fuck you
1) trans people facing horrible, graphic violence from transphobic bigots to show how life is so hard for the poor things
2) trans people are just like normal men and women :0) what they want is just to become and be seen as normal men and women
this one isn’t really bad bc it’s fine to want wish fulfillment fanfic but stories about trans boys getting their first binders and supportive cis boyfriends is like. it’s valid that you want this and it’s valid that this is how you’re expressing this and your fanfic doesn’t have to be compelling literature. it isn’t, but that really is completely fine.
dishonorable mention for the non-trans fic tropes of gp and bp. tfw you want to write pseudo trans bodies but nothing in any way approaching trans people huh. fuck you
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I’m a simple guy. I go to temple. I see the butch lesbians and feminine gay men. and I say well I’m just bisexual for that.
I’m a simple guy. I go to temple. I see the butch lesbians and feminine gay men. and I say well I’m just bisexual for that.
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