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Oct. 31st, 2017
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as part of my project to just be loudly nonbinary whenever possible I got in a verbal exchange with a cis white dude stoner at the bus stop at my college because he saw my shirt and asked me if I smoked blunts. this exchange was fairly civil, in words chosen, but this dude was a very adversarial conversational partner in that he was constantly interrupting with nonsense, vaguely hitting on me, etc. and clearly did not care to understand what I was saying (an attempted basic explanation of trans and nonbinary identity)
I don’t think this was particularly productive in terms of his understanding of gender, but I think I kept my composure pretty well until he started semi-shouting at around the same moment as my bus arrived, at which point I basically said good luck and left. which was actually also keeping my composure pretty well, now that I think about it.
anyway, I’m going to keep doing this in any situation that doesn’t strike me as physically dangerous, whenever I have the time. maybe start carrying around printouts.
as part of my project to just be loudly nonbinary whenever possible I got in a verbal exchange with a cis white dude stoner at the bus stop at my college because he saw my shirt and asked me if I smoked blunts. this exchange was fairly civil, in words chosen, but this dude was a very adversarial conversational partner in that he was constantly interrupting with nonsense, vaguely hitting on me, etc. and clearly did not care to understand what I was saying (an attempted basic explanation of trans and nonbinary identity)
I don’t think this was particularly productive in terms of his understanding of gender, but I think I kept my composure pretty well until he started semi-shouting at around the same moment as my bus arrived, at which point I basically said good luck and left. which was actually also keeping my composure pretty well, now that I think about it.
anyway, I’m going to keep doing this in any situation that doesn’t strike me as physically dangerous, whenever I have the time. maybe start carrying around printouts.
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my brain: maybe you’ll never be able to do that again and also maybe that was an act of aggression against that dude? he kept saying he felt bad
me: YOUVE ALREADY DONE IT AND HE WAS JUST BEING DELIBERATELY OBTUSE AND TRANSPHOBIC. ALSO, POLITELY OFFERING TO EXPLAIN YOUR IDENTITY AS A MARGINALIZED PERSON ISNT AN ACT OF AGGRESSION.
my brain: maybe you’ll never be able to do that again and also maybe that was an act of aggression against that dude? he kept saying he felt bad
me: YOUVE ALREADY DONE IT AND HE WAS JUST BEING DELIBERATELY OBTUSE AND TRANSPHOBIC. ALSO, POLITELY OFFERING TO EXPLAIN YOUR IDENTITY AS A MARGINALIZED PERSON ISNT AN ACT OF AGGRESSION.
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as part of my project to just be loudly nonbinary whenever possible I got in a verbal exchange with a cis white dude stoner at the bus stop at my college because he saw my shirt and asked me if I smoked blunts. this exchange was fairly civil, in words chosen, but this dude was a very adversarial conversational partner in that he was constantly interrupting with nonsense, vaguely hitting on me, etc. and clearly did not care to understand what I was saying (an attempted basic explanation of trans and nonbinary identity)
I don’t think this was particularly productive in terms of his understanding of gender, but I think I kept my composure pretty well until he started semi-shouting at around the same moment as my bus arrived, at which point I basically said good luck and left. which was actually also keeping my composure pretty well, now that I think about it.
anyway, I’m going to keep doing this in any situation that doesn’t strike me as physically dangerous, whenever I have the time. maybe start carrying around printouts.
just reread this post and realized that it offers no explanation of how this interaction got from “you smoke blunts?” to me explaining gender identity. it’s because I mentioned my partner, he asked if I was a lesbian, and I said my partner and I were both nonbinary. i didn’t just respond to “you smoke blunts?” with “no I only smoke ideology”. also this guy asked if I was was a fed.
hailmaryfullofgrace55675:
as part of my project to just be loudly nonbinary whenever possible I got in a verbal exchange with a cis white dude stoner at the bus stop at my college because he saw my shirt and asked me if I smoked blunts. this exchange was fairly civil, in words chosen, but this dude was a very adversarial conversational partner in that he was constantly interrupting with nonsense, vaguely hitting on me, etc. and clearly did not care to understand what I was saying (an attempted basic explanation of trans and nonbinary identity)
I don’t think this was particularly productive in terms of his understanding of gender, but I think I kept my composure pretty well until he started semi-shouting at around the same moment as my bus arrived, at which point I basically said good luck and left. which was actually also keeping my composure pretty well, now that I think about it.
anyway, I’m going to keep doing this in any situation that doesn’t strike me as physically dangerous, whenever I have the time. maybe start carrying around printouts.
just reread this post and realized that it offers no explanation of how this interaction got from “you smoke blunts?” to me explaining gender identity. it’s because I mentioned my partner, he asked if I was a lesbian, and I said my partner and I were both nonbinary. i didn’t just respond to “you smoke blunts?” with “no I only smoke ideology”. also this guy asked if I was was a fed.
