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Jewish hcs are great but they’re always like “Jewish character a finds a loving Jewish found-family-community in Jewish characters b through e and they perform religious observances together” and that’s good but consider other Jewish experiences like:

- not having any human clue about the dates of most holidays

- getting in a tense discussion about zionism

- going to your cousin’s bnei mitzvah and one of the guests is your sister’s friend’s mother’s friend from yoga class, small world, huh

- avoiding Chabadniks

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if you’re a cis bi person and you “don’t experience sga”…….. wyd

maybe people who don’t mind dating non-binary people??? is that so hard?? like can a straight guy fall for a nb folk and decide to change his label without being scrutinized by biphobes and aphobes?

A lesbian can date female-aligned nb people without calling herself bi. Being attracted to only men or women doesn’t stop you at all from dating nb people, because there are nb people aligned with male/female. So, yeah, I think it’s just gross fetishization or an attempt to seem more progressive, mostly.

stop degrading Non-Binary people to where they fall on your binary, you enbyphobic shit. Stop playing off your bigotry as anti-fetishism, grow up

I did not say anywhere that nb people had to be aligned on a binary. I just said that some are, and there are people who usually stick to dating one binary gender and nb people aligned with that gender, which doesn’t make them bi?

Also you really can’t tell right off the bat if someone is nonbinary because every NB person presents differently so they’d have to tell you for you to know. If you’re only attracted to them AFTER they tell you, that’s fetishization!

I’m a nonbinary bisexual person who isn’t male or female aligned and imo if a cis person considers themself bi for being attracted to men and nonbinary people (as a woman) or women and nonbinary people (as a man) I think that’s… legitimate? as someone who’s doesn’t ID as binary-aligned, I’m actually not really comfortable with binary people identifying their attraction to me as “gay” or “straight”.

I agree that cis binary people who date exclusively people who are [gender] and [gender]-aligned are probably generally best off identifying themselves as straight or gay, but when it comes to dating nonbinary people who aren’t binary-aligned, what word would you propose for, for example, a man who’s attracted to women and to me, if not bi? I’m certainly not comfortable with him calling his situation with me “straight”, I don’t think it would be accurate or comfortable for him to call it gay. do you think there should be a set of neologisms for attractions involving nonbinary people?

I don’t think that someone who’s cool with dating non-women seeing me, assuming I’m a woman, discarding me as a dating option, learning that I’m nonbinary, and reconsidering is fetishization of nonbinary people, any more than it would be fetishization of men if that person reconsidered after I came out to them as a trans guy, or turned out to be a cis dude after a hilarious case of mso taken identity. we all make decisions about who we find attractive based on more than a glance, and that includes finding out if their gender identities match our preferences.